rejection from groupis when members of the group show indifferent behavior, which has a great influence on human beings because human beings are social animals. have to live together in a dependent way Being rejected or expelled from the group is an obstacle to human life. And it causes pain as well as physical pain. which is the basic mechanism that signals that something is wrong In other words, rejection from a group is a form of social punishment, becauseThose who are rejected perceive that they are less likely to survive in society. feel worthless like a person who doesn’t exist In other words, social death

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Group rejection can occur at any age. In groups, children use rejection or expulsion from the group when they play together. among teenagers Especially adolescent girls will use negativity when there is a conflict or fight. in adults Almost everyone has experienced rejection and rejection.

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In a survey of more than 2,000 Americans, 67% reported using a silent approach. Do not talk to your partner when you want to say no, with 75% saying they have been victims of their partner not talking. And from the reports of elderly citizens, it was found that being socially affected by colleagues or family members ignore There was a negative correlation with life satisfaction. It also caused a negative self-assessment. And the person who is the target of rejection often feels negative towards the person who rejected them. It was also found that to prevent the uncomfortable feeling of rejection Individuals attempt to reclaim their belonging to the group by trying to remember more information about the group. love others more Or even more amenable to the norm of the group, although he disagreed.

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Individual differences in responding to rejection from the group.

1. Self-worth (Self-esteem)

People with low self-esteem When rejected, negative emotions were reported as more painful. and will react or feel more sensitive than people with high self-esteem

2. Cultural differences

in terms of wanting to be part of a group In Western (American) cultures, belonging to a group is loosely belonging, meaning Westerners have an expectation that their relationship will be flexible. Because of this, Westerners are quick to trust and become intimate with strangers. Resulting in being easily hurt by strangers because they have an open mind As for the Eastern (Japanese), belonging to a clan is to belong securely. This means that they will expect the relationship to last a lifetime. Therefore, Easterners are cautious when interacting with strangers. Participants from both cultures were equally uncomfortable with rejection. but the researchers found Americans are initially very skeptical of their partners. and when rejected, they diminish their impression of a couple in terms of warmth, qualities, and compatibility. As for the Japanese, when rejected will only reduce the feeling of warmth towards the couple But still impressed the couple in terms of features and compatibility at the middle level

3. Attachment style

Children who lack warmth, such as not living with their parents or guardians They tend to be more aggressive than children who live with their parents and are warm. This response in childhood will have a long-term effect on adulthood, when rejected, it will show aggressive or social behavior. A person with a secure attachment style is able to adapt to situations very well. and is not afraid of rejection. have high emotional stability Individuals with a dismissing attachment style show no signs of anger or anger when rejected. But it will reduce your relationship with others. while those with an obsessive attachment style The preoccupied and fearful people showed more anger at rejection than others.

4. Friendly style (Agreeableness)

The friendliness is one of the five personality traits that characterizes friendliness. flexible Able to discuss and compromise with others well Have a good relationship with those around you. People with this trait tend to be more attentive to their relationships with others. When rejected, these individuals have a heavier and more intense response.

5. Rejection sensitivity

Individuals who are highly sensitive to rejection are likely to always expect rejection when the event may not have happened. People tend to interpret ambiguous situations as being rejected. Therefore, it often responds antagonistically to rejection. Being very anxious and concerned about what actually happened at that moment, a person’s fear of rejection, and this tendency to be afraid of rejection, develops from childhood experiences of rejection. Being rejected triggers both emotional and behavioral exaggeration. These include anger, jealousy, and inappropriate attempts to control other people’s behavior. People who are highly susceptible to rejection tend to avoid situations where rejection might occur. even avoiding social interactions This means that the person’s chances of being accepted in society are also reduced.